I love you. In fact, I envy the flexibility you have in your lives to be able stay at home and be with your children. I wish that I had the ability to do so. Do you think I like leaving my kid at daycare everyday to be disciplined, educated, and smooched on by people that aren't his flesh and blood? Not exactly. Do you think that I enjoy that someone else, however, has to clean up his massive poopy diaps? Abso-friggin-lutely. That, in itself, is worth $200 a week if you ask me. Smith's diapers are lethal.
But, clearly you have it out for me. You and your posts about your chocolate covered goodnesses and homemade sweet treats for your hubbies. And lets not forget about your creative ass toddler activities and your perfectly adorable outings to the playground. You bitches are making me look bad.
Stop that shit.
My husband is going to think this is what a good mommy / wife is. He's going to stamp a big fat FAIL sign on my forehead because I don't bake fresh cookies and carefully dip strawberries in the most decadent chocolate sauce. I am deemed a loser because I didn't make my toddler an amazing fort out of boxes, christmas lights, and pillows.
Thanks assholes. Oh, and I guess I can thank Pinterest for this shit as well because lord knows that all inspiring piece of mommy goodness is to blame too.
Us working moms get a bad rap. We do the best we can on the 3 hours a day that we have at home during the week. My kid doesn't have the coolest activities and my husband doesn't have the most amazing dinners cooked for him every day. But, we do have love. And adorable naked babies.
And no one. NO ONE has a cuter one than me.
(don't get your panties in a bunch you SAHMs.. I'm just teasing... kinda)
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I'll fight ya for the cute award, LOL. As a SAHM I agree with this letter. I'm not sure how moms have time for baked goods, 4 course meals, and most importantly more than one kiddo. I have one, granted he's special needs, but most of the time laundry sits in the dryer, dinner is microwaved or in the form of some eggs, and I'm in yoga pants!
Maybe I need a SAHM manual?
Well said, Kristen. It's so easy to beat ourselves up and feel guilt for having to work; however, I totally believe and have faith that my children and husband feel our love without us being there 24/7. Keep your head up and know you are doing what's best for your family. Truth be told...I would go CRAZY being a SAHM. I need adult interaction!! Have a great day!
Thank you so much for posting this. My baby is 8 weeks old and I have been back to work for a week and hate it. Obviously if I could stay at home I would, clearly that's not an option. Your post made me laugh and realize that there are a ton of moms out there that are working right along with me. :)
your comment about Pinterest made me laugh right out loud for that is what inspired me to make the treats for Kelcee's VDAY party at pre-school lol! Girlie you are an amazing mommy and wife and you work so that your Smith can have the bestest! So don't worry your pretty head! SAHM vs Working Moms in the end is all the same we love our babies...I just laughed out loud at your soccer ball sensor girl you are off the chain today lol! Hey I am a SAHM and I surely didn't dip anything in chocolate lol! You are so silly! I just puffy heart you and your silliness!
Oh and you make me look bad with your super skinny, super gorgeous, awesome shoe wearing self lol! :)
xoxo
Sums
You're preaching to the choir, girlfriend!
hahahahaha you're my hero.
oh, and I'm emailing you back today. I'm just sidetracked and busy with... wait for it... MY JOB! :) :)
Well since yesterday was my first day as an official working mom I can tell you this shit is for the birds. I'm already exhausted and if K ever asks me to cook dinner I may have to laugh in his face. I have to fit everything I was doing in a whole day on maternity leave now into 3 precious hours each night.
Word! If we are all clean on our three hours a day and get snuggles, that is an accomplishment. You are a great mom, working moms are amazing in a different way. We bring home the bacon, and I would say we fry it up to but I mostly use my hard earned funds to let someone else do that.
I agree with u...yes at the moment I am a SAHM and yes I taught preschool for 3 years but I am a big fat failure at doing those same things for H. I suck as a SAHM, which is probably why I apply for jobs all day. Who knew this former teacher wouldn't like staying home...
Your post always rock! Awesome for keeping it real. I work too and feel like I am less for not making a homemade tee or attending a mommy and me class.
I love this picture. The finger is cracking me up. Its like he's trying to get your attention. Um, excuse me mom can I get a towel please?!
Good Lord. Thank you for this post. Between the rush hour traffic, screaming toddler in the car for 2 hours each day and the little time I get with him some days I lose it. Literally. Yesterday was a 2 x xanax day ....just read my blog and you'll know why :( Valentines day from hell. HUH. Well anyways I think you are rocking the work/mom/wife thing and we just do the best we dang can! xoxo Becky
I feel like a SAHM fail because I don't get any of that stuff done. My kids are lucky to get a bath every other day.
Yes and yes! I heart you and your posts!
Haha. Preach it sister!
I thought it I saw one more pinterest craft or baked good on Instagram yesterday I was going to delete the app. Who exactly is your 6 month old giving these perfectly handcrafted Valentines too?
OMG. I don't even have kiddos and I completely agree with this one. I mean, really.
Oh, and P.S. Each time I signed onto facebook yesterday, I was inundated with bajillions sappy, ooey, gooey facebook snapshots of what the most wonderful husband/wife did for his/her spouse for Valentine's Day. Talk about inadequate...I didn't even get DGC a card. Fail.
Love it. I didn't even have time to cook dinner last night. I had to send my husband out for pizza last night. I certainly didn't have time to make a special meal or dessert.
i feel like this is directed at me, unfollow ;-)
I agree with Shannon.
Hater.
;) J slash K. Obviously.
Girl, I've done both gigs. I don't do all the craftyness though. I'd burn the house down. Ha!
@shannon it secretly is about you. ;)
I totally agree! I feel like the worlds worst Mom when I see all the cool/fun stuff all the SAHM's do with their toddlers all day long. Totally wish I could...but, well...just isn't in the budget with a new house on the horizon and all. :-(
100% agree!
I stay home (but work at home, so totally different ball came if you ask me), and I cannot, for the LOVE of me, cook a decent meal. I SUCK. Like, once every 2 weeks is about my max. I am AWFUL. Also? I didn't make a single homemade thing for my toddler or vice versa. Didn't even get my husband a card for vday. But did I expect one from him (and flowers too?) YOU BETCHA. :) ha. I feel guilty all the time about toddler activities I don't do. And meals I don't cook. So you aren't alone.
I agree with Heather 100%. In fact, the SAHM's that you're referring to make other SAHM's like me look bad!!!!! I sure as hell didn't make homemade goodies or an elaborate meal for my hubby because frankly I was too busy...wait for it...being a SAHM. ;)
I posted on FB this weekend about how I am forever folding laundry and a SAHM friend replied that it was because I waited and did it all on the weekend. She informed me that I should do what she does which is to wash, dry, fold, and put away at least one load per day. Mmmkay, I'll get right on that. Never mind that I don't get home until 6:30 (some nights earlier and some later). Then over the next two hours, I have to feed, bathe, lay out clothes, and put to bed my two little people. Sure, I wish I could stay home with my kids, but I can't. Good for some people who can, but to those who say shit like that just to try to make themselves look like superior moms, well, they can bite me. While they were napping with their cute babies today, I was working. You know, making my own money . . . contributing financially to my family . . . and tonight, I'll go home and do all the mom stuff. Grr. Seriously, nothing against SAHMs, most of them are lovely, but some are just super bitches about it and it pisses me off.
I love this because tech. I am not a SAHM/ SAHGF yet! I am on maternity leave still.. although I am thinking.. I sure am going to miss having my own money.. and I have yet to decide on what I am going to do about insurance, because god forbid I don't have insurance I know something major will happen to me.
But I promise I won't post anything you mentioned above! And if it makes it any better.. yesterday Chris got home from work and we went to the commisary and then ordered pizza for dinner.. not very romantic. I though about making him cookies, but I decided against it. =)
haha, love this :) I think working moms should get a BETTER rep, casue they're often doing more.
Let me start off by saying that you are one of the inspiring working moms that I have to run to when I have to face the fact that I will soon be working. It is sooo hard to deal with that truth, but that's just how life is for many of us. I've been incredibly lucky to stay home for 2 years, but won't be able to starting this summer. To try and fight off the sadness I feel, I look to working moms like you who still have wonderful times with your baby and work hard at balancing work and home. Let's hope I can be as successful as you are.
That being said, I am currently a full-blown Pinterest loving SAHM. But I don't have all this time the SAHMs you write about seem to have. I have a really busy toddler running around, so I don't get to make nice dinners, fancy chocolates, etc. I'm so grateful that I don't have to work (yet) and I wish I had time to make wonderful activities and dinners, but I am TOO BUSY with my daughter to do any of that supposed SAHM stuff!
When I go back to work in July (boo hoo!) I will miss this chaos, but it will be a little bit nice to have a schedule every day! I don't like that there is a big animosity between working and SAH moms. There are as many fantastic working moms as there are dead beat SAHMs, I'm sure. I hope that when I go back to work, I can balance my life as easily as you seem to.
i don't know if i'm considered a sahm, wahm, or a working mom. either way, we had carryout pizza and pre-sliced tollhouse cookies last night. extra valentine's bonus? the house is a mess and i was the only mom at preschool that didn't bake something for her kid's class.
i'm just winning mom awards all over the place.
I'm a former preschool teacher and now sahm with two kiddos (one in school) and my house is a disaster all the time. My husband would make an awesome sahm;) He cleans and does laundry way more than I do. I did accomplish some laundry while my 2 year old was supposed to be napping (she just yelled the whole time).
I do find time to do the cutesy projects with the kids but that is just the preschool teacher in me. My mind is full of that nonsense.
buahaha.... i blame the blog world!
Did I ever tell you that while I was pregnant I thought I should stop reading your blog because I was so obsessed with Smith's cuteness and I was worried I wouldn't think my own son was cute with the standard Smith set? True story.
i.love.you.
That Smith sure does get best looking baby EVER!!
LOVE this! And if it makes you feel better, Ross got no-thing, nada, ZILCH for Valentine's Day because I was working! how's that? and how bout you have the cutest Smith and I'll have the cutest George? :)
I absolutely love this! I am a full time working mom of 2 boys and if I read one more FB post about how my SAHM friend baked goodies and cooked this gourmet dinner, I am going to vomit. I can't do that. I would love to be home with my little men, but I have to work in order for us to have the necessary things in life.
Enough of my ranting...I adore your blog. I love your straight forward, shooting from the hip writing style. I hope to one day be a great blogger like you :)
A-freakin-MEN!
LMAO! I found this thru Stress Case's linky love post...and I just have to say...as a SAHM, I have so much respect for you working mamas! I can't imagine how hard that is, but I think you do a helluva lot more than SAHMs..because you do "our job" plus you work! That's insane!
Oh and I think it's hilarious that most SAHMs try and make it out to be like they are perfect. If only! I look like a mess most days and my house - pbbt! I have to referee my 4 year olds all day long, if I even attempt to clean, they mess it right up. Or they start beating each other up or something. Those asshole SAHMs are making the messy SAHMs look like crap too! LOL
Great post :)
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